I have never been formally diagnosed, but I’m pretty positive I have A.D.D. (Attention Deficit Disorder), and most likely A.D.H.D. (Attention Deficit and Hyperactivity Disorder). I saw a really funny, and very informative, show on PBS called ‘ADD and Loving It’ and the followup, ‘A.D.D. and Mastering It’. Great information on Adult A.D.H.D. and how it really is a ‘Real’ thing! I highly recommend watching it if you, your child, spouse, or anyone you know has (or think they have) it!
People who have known me for awhile know that if they want me to tell me something, they better get my attention and make sure I’m focused on what they’re saying, or I’ll never remember. Writing it down is even better. I can focus on a project, and I mean really focus! Well, as long as I’m not interrupted, or a bird flies by the window, or I notice a funny spot on the wall, or…, well, then I’m pretty much on to something else, totally forgetting about what I was doing. I saw a t-shirt once that said: ’Some people think I have ADD. but I…Oh look! A Chicken!’ That’s me…chasing chickens, and my friends make sure I know when I’m doing just that!
People who don’t know me well just think I’m unorganized, and some have a difficult time being around me…especially those crazy O.C.D. friends…And they aren’t allowed in my house or office! (Wayyyy too messy for them) But I know exactly where everything is! (Um, where did I put my keys???)
I had a very hard time focusing in school, especially in lecture type classes, so didn’t always get perfect grades (shhhh! Don’t tell my students that!). I’m also pretty sure I have Auditory Discrimination Disorder. I can remember things that are written down…very visual learner, but tell me verbally, and it often goes in one ear and out the other!
I really wish that these issues would have been diagnosed when I was a child. Maybe with that knowledge, and help in learning how to deal with those issues, it would have made learning a lot easier for me. Having the opportunity to try a medication to help me focus may have helped me cope better, too. I know, I know, this is a big ‘no-no’ to many people, but watch that show (ADD and Loving It) and you will see that A.D.D. medications have come a long way. Those meds are safer than ordinary aspirin! Giving your child the gift of the ability to better focus and learn, could be the greatest gift you could give him/her (and yourself!).
Sometimes kids (and adults) who have focusing issues, A.D.D., A.D.H.D., just need someone to understand and help. Most people who don’t have these issues get very frustrated with those who do. They lose their temper, say something that makes them feel stupid, or feel like a failure, and then end up giving up on them. We know it’s hard, but think about how ‘we’ feel! It’s hard work to stay focused, to stay organized, to talk and write in complete sentences!
As Kermit the Frog says, “It’s not easy being green”, or to have any ‘disorder’, but everybody has something they struggle with. It’s normal to be…well, NOT normal!
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