OK, so let’s talk about being SINGLE!

I recently read an article that said 80% of American singles over 50 say they are happy being single. I guess I’m not the only one!  Don’t get me wrong…I’m not saying that I’m against ever being in a committed relationship again, but honestly, I love just having myself to take care of and not having to answer to anyone.  I think about how my life has changed since I was married, and how my beliefs and attitude about relationships have changed since I’ve been single.

I have met so many unhappy couples who stay in marriages for the kids, money, or because it’s just too much work to get out of it.  I’m amazed at how many couples sleep in different rooms and/or have someone ‘on the side’.  Why would anyone want to live this way..unhappy and unfulfilled?

I know some amazing single people, men and women, who all have different thoughts and opinions on being single.  I haven’t taken a formal survey, but it seems as though more men want to be married, or in a serious relationship, than women. I also see way more men get into relationships right away after divorce than women.  I am not sure why this is, but I have a few ideas (my own opinions, but I’ll tackle that one in another article!)

I believe that women tend to lose themselves after being married and taking care of their husbands and kids. When they find themselves single again, and after re-discovering their identity, it’s a lot harder for them to give that up!  I know many amazing divorced women who have started brand new careers, created their own businesses, and realized what the feeling of independence can do for their self-esteem.

I remember the first time I felt that feeling of independence and confidence. It was very soon after my marriage ended, that my vacuum cleaner stopped working.  I was so frustrated!  Then something happened…I just got mad!  I took it outside, took it all apart, cleaned it and put it back together…it worked!  I stood up, dusted myself off, and knew right then and there that I was going to be just fine.  I realized that I could do anything I set my mind to…all by myself! It might sound silly, but that moment was one of the most important turning points in my life!

Sue-buttonI’d love to hear your thoughts, and stories, about being single!
If you’re in a place in your life where you’re ready to Re-Discover Your Independence.. talk to me!
Sue Brooke